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SelfWorthFeeeling everybody has got automatically by growing up in his society. It goes up and down in life accordant to and with success. 

But succes is a very fast fading flower. It depends on your definitions and on the definitions of succes of your social environment. And at first it depends on your feelings with success, on your wishes for admiration by the others and your degree of dependence on this drug "success and admiration" or one of them. 

I like these "Whatever you do ..." sentences as I can find so much sense in them. So the next: "Whatever you do is the best you could do under the given circumstances". 

Mistakes seem to be the contrary of success and so we all want to avoid them. 
But nevertheless we are needing the possibility of making mistakes for our necessary processes of learning.
So if you are eager of learning you will never avoid any kind of mistakes.
That might sound funny in your ears but the topic of this page is "SelfWorthFeeling". And if your "SelfWorthFeeling" is neither small as a nut nor blown up to a balloon (what at the end might be the same) you'll find out at least that "avoiding mistakes" pruduces at first "avoiding actions" and second an endless ribbon of mistakes.
"Mistakes are unavoidable effects of activities" is an attitude which might be a first step on this way of finding your own values for your own actions.
And that could be our goal with "SelfWorthFeeling": To find our own and selfmade values for our actions and activities.
And what about an own definition for "success" for yourself?
The value for success for most people might be: Main thing is that it works as I want!
But that is always only the foreground of the result of an action, only the short-term consequences. What about the background of the result? What about the long-term consequences? 

If you were one of those poor beings who are always thinking about the long-term consequences of any action, you perhaps would have been failed in the "normal way of success". 
Sharks and raiders are ruling the business world and they are the propagandists of "Main thing's that it works!", and "Everything goes, but you mustn't let them get you!" as they can have their kind of profit better with this attitudes than with each other.
But surely this is not the way for the big mass who are like peaceful fishes. Do you know the book "Dolphin Strategies"? Read it if you can get it!
The only trust in this shark-ruled world you can have is that into your own energy of getting clear with all these small and big insults from the sharks.
And I believe sharks are diminished by the evolution of our times as they are destroying our world for their own profit and we won't let them going on with it. 

If we are creating values for ourselves which could be as valid for each human being in the world as for ourselves there will not be any place for short-term-thinking people. 

Your personal competence for yourself might be that you create such values in cooperation with others which are fitting to your highest ideal even as to your daily activities.
 
 
 

(Is to be continued ...) 
 
 
 
 
 

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Last updated at 07 Nov 2007